Reason, Season, Lifetime
As caregivers, we tend to be loving people. This means that we frequently get hurt. You'll find that caregivers across the board will have the biggest hearts of anyone you could ever meet. Who else could care for patients who can be crude, harsh, cruel, and even abusive for hours on hours without mirroring the same? The weakness of the caregiver is that they feel too much, care for too many, they give of themselves to so many people that they are often getting hurt by those they care for.
Why is that big of a heart a problem? Well, patients die. People change. Friends walk away. It's all a part of life. Caregivers have a hard time letting go, even when it is time. I was sent a forwarded email one time that this reminds me of, it's called "A reason, a season, a lifetime". It talks about how we are sent others in our life for a reason, such as to help us through a problem, a season, to guide us through a season or period of change, and finally, once or twice a lifetime, we are sent someone who will be with us through the rest of our travels. This has helped as people exit the stage of my life.
I remember when one of my little sweetheart patients died. We declared TOD, time of death, and came out and quietly informed the staff as the mortuary took her body. I remember some cried, one almost in hysterics, some were silent, some simply needed to be held. We all hurt differently, and the losses we experience are always for a reason. Thankfully I know that I have a Heavenly Father who loves me and will only put and keep people in my life that can help me and improve me, and that I can do the same for them. Remember this as you come across caregivers, and be extra kind to them, for they are not only fighting their own battles, but they are assisting many others with battles and being battered by others as a result of their care. Love a CNA :)
Why is that big of a heart a problem? Well, patients die. People change. Friends walk away. It's all a part of life. Caregivers have a hard time letting go, even when it is time. I was sent a forwarded email one time that this reminds me of, it's called "A reason, a season, a lifetime". It talks about how we are sent others in our life for a reason, such as to help us through a problem, a season, to guide us through a season or period of change, and finally, once or twice a lifetime, we are sent someone who will be with us through the rest of our travels. This has helped as people exit the stage of my life.
I remember when one of my little sweetheart patients died. We declared TOD, time of death, and came out and quietly informed the staff as the mortuary took her body. I remember some cried, one almost in hysterics, some were silent, some simply needed to be held. We all hurt differently, and the losses we experience are always for a reason. Thankfully I know that I have a Heavenly Father who loves me and will only put and keep people in my life that can help me and improve me, and that I can do the same for them. Remember this as you come across caregivers, and be extra kind to them, for they are not only fighting their own battles, but they are assisting many others with battles and being battered by others as a result of their care. Love a CNA :)
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